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A practical, meditative approach that can be used in the moment to help you stay calm and balanced when your child's behavior is pushing you to your limit--by the popular author of Simplicity Parenting.

When children are at their most difficult and challenging situations arise, how can we react in a way that reflects our family values and expectations? Often, when children "push our buttons," we find ourselves reacting in ways that are far from our principles, often further inflaming a situation.
When our children are at their worst, they need us to be at our best - or as close to it as we can be. Educator and family counselor Kim John Payne, author of Simplicity Parenting, offers techniques that simply and directly shift these damaging patterns in communication and parental behavior. These grounded and practical strategies will help you:

* Slow down the interaction
* Be more in control of your reactions
* Open up a much wider range of helpful responses
* Sense what your child's deeper needs are even though they are misbehaving
* Respond in a way that gives your child a feeling of being heard and still puts a boundary in place

Payne's meditative approach can be done anywhere, anytime; it lifts you out of old, unwanted patterns of action-reaction and prepares you so that the voice you speak with is closer to the parent you want to be. His concrete and simple techniques can help you, and your children, be at your best, even in the most challenging of times.

About the Author

Kim John Payne

Kim John Payne is an Australian who has, for 24 years, worked throughout the world as a counselor, consultant/researcher and educator of both children and adults. He has been helping children, adolescents and families explore issues such as social difficulties with siblings and classmates, attention and behavioral issues at home and school, and a range of emotional issues such as defiance, aggression, addiction and self-esteem.

Kim has researched and implemented a Social Inclusion Approach in many communities, which helps overcome anti social behavior, bullying and teasing in school and at home. Kim regularly consults in colleges, clinics and schools throughout the USA and abroad, helping teachers and parents remove emotional and social obstacles from the paths of their children. He is at present engaged in an extensive research project, focusing on exploring and developing a drug free approach to Attention Related Disorders.

He is the Director of The Center for Social Sustainability www.socialsustain.com a training and consulting practice with focus areas in corporate training, the common concern process (working with issues of exclusion with adults in communities) , the social inclusion approach (working with issues of exclusion, bullying and teasing in schools) and coming of age for boys. He also directs the Simplicity Parenting Life Coaching training program http://www.simplicityparenting.com/coachingresources.html

He was the Founding Director of 'The Challenge of Adolescence,' a training course for therapists, teachers and parents, the Founding Co Director of the Eastern European Institute of Spatial Dynamics (Hungary) and the Co Director of the Michael Institute of Spatial Dynamics (England) . Now, he is now the Project Director of the Waldorf Community Collaborative Counseling Program at Antioch University New England. This is a course aimed at training future Waldorf School & Family Counselors and also teachers to better understand social and emotional issues of children and teens and to support home and school life.

In addition to authoring "Simplicity Parenting", released by Ballantine Books/Random House in 2009, he is also the author of "The Games Children Play", (1996) published by Hawthorn Press and is presently working on a third title - "The Soul of Discipline".

Kim strives to deepen understanding and give practical tools for life that arise out of the burning social issues of our time. He is based in Harlemville, New York with his wife and two daughters.

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